Kungani isimilo senja yami sashintsha

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• Izizathu zenja yami ukushintsha isimilo nobumnene
• Ukuhlela kabusha isimilo senja yethu
• Ukuhunyushwa kwemizwa yenja yakho
• Eminye Imizwa Yenja Yakho

Uhlamvu lomdlwane wakho lungashintsha ngenxa yezici ezithile, okuhlangenwe nakho okwenziwe noma kungenasizathu esizwakalayo ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.

Ngenxa yalokho, bangaba nozwela ngokwengeziwe, besabe noma babe nolaka, kule ndatshana sifuna ukukuqondisa ukuze wazi ukuthi yiziphi izimbangela ezingashintsha noma ziguqule indlela yokuziphatha kwenja.

Kunezimbangela ezihluke kakhulu ezingathinta lolu shintsho, njengokuthena, ukuzihlanganisa nabantu kabi noma ezinye izinkinga zansuku zonke. Qhubeka ufunde ukuze uthole ngoba isimilo senja yakho sishintshile.

Izizathu zenja yami ukushintsha isimilo nobumnene

Umngani wakho omkhulu unemizwa. Khumbula ukuthi ngenxa yezizathu ezithile ezihlobene ngqo nawe noma cha, ungazizwa uwedwa, udabukile, ukhathazekile, ukhathazekile, ukhathele ... Ukungalingani kwengqondo okuhluphekayo kudala ukungaphatheki okuhle okuguqula ushintsho lokuziphatha. Amandla angaguquki futhi ajulile esingawaqukatha ayazidlulisa futhi abangele ukuvuka okungalungile enjeni.

Yini okufanele siyenze ekuqaleni?

njengomuntu wakho, inja badinga ukulinganisela kwengqondo nomzimba onempilo. Kumele siqiniseke ukuthi zonke izidingo zakho eziyisisekelo zokubona indawo, ukudlala, ukuhlanza kanye nokudla ziyahlangabezana. Kokubili lapho sifika ekhaya futhi siphuma emgwaqweni, kufanele sibe nomdlandla kepha sihlale sikhululekile, sikhombise isimo esiyisibonelo kuye futhi sisingathe lesi simo ngokwethu. Musa ukubusa futhi wenze isilwane sakho sifune ukulawula.

Yini i- izizathu ezijwayelekile wokushintsha kwesimilo senja?

• Ukusakaza: Kujwayelekile kakhulu ukuthi kube nokushintsha kwezinhlamvu ngemuva kokuthi ukhiphe isilwane sakho. Singathola inja ikhululekile futhi ithobekile noma ngenye indlela.
• Ukuguga: Ekugugeni inja yethu iba nezinguquko zomzimba nezengqondo njengokulahlekelwa ngamakhono athile. Ngalesi sizathu, singabona ukuguquka kwesimo sengqondo esinolaka noma esingenzi lutho.
• ukuvuthwa ngokocansi: Kulesi sigaba sokukhula, inja ihlola ushintsho emzimbeni wayo. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi phakathi nalesi sigaba uqhubeke nokuxhasa ukuhlangana nezinye izilwane ezifuywayo, abantu kanye nemvelo. Kufanele ufunde ukuziphatha kulesi sigaba esisha sempilo yakho.
• isilwane esisha: Uma sengeza ikati noma inja entsha emndenini, inja yethu ethandekayo ingakhombisa umona noma ukuziphatha ngokuziphatha. Yize lokhu kungukuziphatha okujwayelekile, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi ulihloniphe ilungu elisha. Kufanele ubeke imingcele yize kubalulekile ukuthi abone ukuthi uhlala phezulu (ngokulandelana) kwelungu lomndeni elisha (inja entsha noma ikati).
• Izifo: Inja egulayo ingakhombisa ukungaziphathi kahle. Uma ukholwa ukuthi ushintsho ekuziphatheni lungahlobene nokugula okuthile, ungabe usalinda bese uhambisa isilwane sakho kudokotela wezilwane.
• Ukuzijabulisa okungalungile: Uma umdlwane wakho ungafundanga kusukela esemncane ukubaluleka kokudlala kahle neminye imidlwane, kufanele umfundise ukuthi ukwenze kanjani noma ngabe ungumdlwane omdala. Ungalokothi wehluleke ukukhuthaza ukuzibandakanya namanye amalungu ezinhlobo zakho ngisho nabantu. Baluleke kakhulu!
• Izinguquko emvelweni: Uma uthathe isinqumo sokusuka endlini uye efulethini, uma uliphuce ngaphandle kokuqaphela amathoyizi alo noma muva nje uchithe isikhathi esiningi uwedwa, kufanele uzibuze ukuthi ngabe lezi kungaba yini izizathu zokushintsha kwesimo somdlwane wakho.
• Ukulahlekelwa othandekayo: Noma kungenye inja noma umuntu, inja izwa lokhu kulahlekelwa njengoba uzizwa nawe. Le yinkinga yezengqondo okufanele iphathwe ngokucophelela okukhulu, inikeze isilwane amandla amasha kanye nezisusa eziphazamisa futhi zisisize ukunqoba lo mphumela.
• ingane ekhaya: Ukufika kwengane ekhaya kungadala umona nomona enjeni. Yize kubaluleke kakhulu ukugcina ibanga phakathi kwentsha nesilwane esifuywayo, kufanele uzame ukuthi ngamunye abe nesikhathi sabo sokunakwa, ukunakekelwa nokutotosa ngokulinganayo. Ukukhuthaza ubudlelwano obuhle phakathi kwalokhu okubili kubalulekile.
• Ulaka: Ubudlova yinkinga enkulu yokuziphatha ebuyisela emuva futhi edale ezinye izinkinga kulolu hlu olufanayo. Kumele ilashwe yisazi.

• Ukucindezeleka: Izimpawu eziningana zingakhombisa ukuthi inja yethu ihlushwa ukucindezeleka (ukungathandi ukudla, ukugwema imidlalo, ayihlobene) futhi kuvame ukucasulwa ngasizathu simbe. Bheka okuyimbangela yenkinga ukuze ukwazi ukuyixazulula.
• Ukukhathazeka: Ukuntuleka kobudlelwano nezinye izinja noma isidingo esingafinyelelwanga esiyisisekelo kungaba yisizathu sokukhathazeka. Thola ukuthi yini inkinga edala ukukhathazeka esilwaneni sakho ukuze uyixazulule ngokushesha okukhulu.
• ukuxhumana okubi: Akuhlali njalo inja nomnikazi wayo bezwana kahle. Kubalulekile ukwazi nokuzazisa ngolimi lwenja nokuthi ungayiphatha kanjani. Uma inja nawe ungahambisani nayo, ingadala ukudideka nokungakhululeki emvelweni okuzothinta ngqo umlingiswa wakho.

• I-phobias nokwesaba: Kuyiqiniso ukuthi izinja eziningi ziyazesaba izinto ezithile (ezinye izinja, amanzi, amakati, izimoto, iziqhumane ...) uma ngabe yini ebangela ukwesaba enjeni yethu ingenakugwemeka futhi ikhona ezindaweni eziyizungezile, kufanele sisebenzise inqubo yokuxhumana nabantu ngakho ukuthi isilwane sethu siyabona ukuthi akufanele sesabe le nto, noma okungenani sifunde ukuyiziba. Yize kuvela kokuhlangenwe nakho okubi, akukephuzi kakhulu ukukusiza unqobe ukwesaba kwakho.

Ukuhlela kabusha isimilo senja yethu

Lapho inkinga isitholakele, kufanele sazi ukuthi yithina esizokwenza impilo yenja yethu yansuku zonke ibuyele esimeni ebinaso phambilini, ukuze ngakho-ke thola isimilo sakho esivamile nobumnene bakho.. Kumele ngazo zonke izindlela ivikele inkinga ukuthi ibe yimbi kakhulu.

Kungaba wusizo olukhulu kuwe phendukela kuchwepheshe ukukuqondisa ezinkingeni zokushintsha indlela yokuziphatha, ukuqonda amaphutha akho nokuthuthukisa inqubo yakho. Uma ungenayo le nketho ngenxa yezizathu zomnotho noma ezinye izizathu, kuzofanele uzikhandle futhi wenze konke okusemandleni akho.

Njengoba sishilo ngaphambili, ushintsho lwenja yakho lubangelwa i- ukungalingani ngokomzwelo ukuthi isilwane sakho siyahlupheka nokuthi singaba yisifo esingelapheki uma ungasilungisi ngesikhathi. Gwema ngazo zonke izindlela ukudonsa ibhande lakho, ulaka, uvalo futhi ukhuthaze isimo sengqondo esengeziwe senhlalo nesokukhululeka.

Ukuhunyushwa kwemizwa yenja yakho

Abantu abaningi baqonda kahle lapho ubachazela ukuthi kufanele bakhululeke futhi baqine nomdlwane wabo, kepha lapho isikhathi sifika, abaqondi. zisho ukuthini lezi zinguquko zokuziphatha futhi bamukela isimo sokwesaba noma ukungabekezeleli emizweni eyindida yemidlwane.

Ukugwema izimo ezingezinhle eziveza ukungazinzi, kufanele samukele ulimi lwenja yethu, ukwenza njalo, silandele lesi seluleko esilandelayo:

• inja yami kububula lapho ebona enye injaIzinja ziyizidalwa ezinobungane ezingazwana kangcono noma ezimbi kakhulu nezinye izilwane, khumbula ukuthi ngeke zihlale zingabangane abakhulu. Uma ubona lokhu kuziphatha lapho ubona esinye isilwane kusho ukuthi injana yakho imane ifuna ukugijima, ijahe futhi ibe nesikhathi esihle nomngane wohlobo lwayo, kusamele uqaphele njalo. Ncoma ukukhululeka kwakhe, nokuziphatha okuhle ngamagama othando nangokuphatha, futhi ungalokothi umphoqe ukuthi ahlanganyele uma engazizwa ethanda.
• Funda indawo okuyo ngamakhala akho: Ukubona inja yakho ihogela enye inja, umuntu ongaziwa noma into iyakhanya, kusho ukuthi ufuna ukuhlangana nayo futhi kufanele uyincome ngayo. Ngokuphambene nalokho, omunye ubona ukuthi ufunda enye inja, umuntu noma into ngendlebe yakhe noma ngamehlo akhe nje bese ebona ukuthi bayasolisa noma bakhombisa isimo sengqondo sobutha. Nikeza umdlwane wakho umklomelo noma nini lapho enuka izitshalo, izinja, njll. Noma engakuthandi, uma egonyiwe ngeke ahlupheke noma yiluphi uhlobo lokugula. Ukuhogela kuyindlela yenja yakho yokuxhumana nemvelo futhi kusho nokuthi bakhululekile. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi uthathe isikhathi sokuhogela noma yinini lapho uphuma khona ukuyohambahamba, ukwenza lokhu, ukuhambise ezindaweni lapho ungathola khona amakha ahlukahlukene akushukumisayo engqondweni futhi akuvuse ilukuluku.
• inja yami ugqolozele ezinye izinja noma izinto: Yize inja yakho ingakhonkothi, igquma noma inolaka, ungaqaphela ukuthi igcina isimo sokuqapha ngokweqile lapho ihlangana nezinye izinja. Inomsila nezindlebe eziphakanyisiwe. Isikhathi esiningi esincishisiwe sisho ukuthi ukukhathazeka kwenja nokulungiswa kuleyo nja noma into kuyanda. Kulesi senzakalo sincoma ukuthi uthathe ukunaka kwakho futhi ukwenze unqamule kusikhuthazi esikwenza uhlale uqaphile. Mhalalisele noma nini lapho enaka futhi eza nawe, lokhu kuyindlela enhle uma kwesinye isikhathi engazibekezeleli ezinye izilwane, ngale ndlela kwenza ukuthi akunake ngesikhathi sokuhamba, into enhle kubo bobabili.

Eminye Imizwa Yenja Yakho

Uma ukuhunyushwa kolimi lwenja kunganele ukuqonda ukuqonda kwayo kwengqondo nezizathu zokushintsha kohlamvu, sincoma ukuthi iya kuchwepheshe noma uqhubeke uthola ukwaziswa ukwazi ngokuningiliziwe isimo sengqondo nokuziphatha kwesilwane sakho.

Qiniseka ukuthi udlulisa amehlo kuwebhusayithi yethu ukuze wazi izindatshana ezahlukahlukene ngezinkinga zokuziphatha kwezinja, kuzo zonke uzothola imininingwane ehlukahlukene futhi ewusizo kakhulu ukuxazulula izinkinga zansuku zonke.